I was a sophomore in high school. 15 years old. Looking back, I should have never been allowed to even date a 17 year old. But, well, hindsight.

Set Boundaries

I still remember the clothes I was wearing. Stone-washed jeans with a tuck-roll around the ankles. A plain white t-shirt with a large, comfy blue sweatshirt over it. Brown loafers. My typical attire even to this day.

He called and asked if I would accompany him to the mall to help him pick out a Christmas present for his mom. After I was given permission to go, he and his best friend showed up at my house to pick me up, but he told me he had forgotten something at home.

My mom passed away never hearing my story. I’ve never even shared it with my sister.

Statistically, 1 in 4 women (and 1 in 7 men) 18 and older in America report they have been in an intimate partner relationship where they were physically abused by their partner. 1 in 4.

I have 4 daughters.

The thought of something like this happening to them makes me ill. I want to make sure I put forth my best effort to help them stay safe.

It’s why we insist on meeting their friends. We invite them to our home and get to know them; well. 

We keep communication lines open and have strong relationships with our children. We’re actively involved and make sure they know we’re available for even the toughest conversation. 

In partnership with Loveisrespect, I’ve shared some things to think about when helping your teen set boundaries in their relationships:

Basically, no means no.

Boundaries are about respect. Love is respect. Not only is it about respecting others, but yourself as well. 

Questions about setting boundaries?

Loveisrespect is the ultimate resource to empower youth to prevent and end dating abuse. It is a project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline. 

Highly-trained advocates offer support, information and advocacy to young people who have questions or concerns about their dating relationships. Free and confidential phone, live chat and texting services are available 24/7/365.

• Chat at www.loveisrespect.org
• Text LOVEIS to 22522
• Call 1-866-331-9474